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Thursday, February 01, 2007
life lessons and decisions
After reading ah ling's post (thanks to ds who helped), few thoughts came into surface based on the things I've encountered.
The phrase says "the observer always sees better" and when come to myself, there are things that are unable to think thru.
Seeing it from the observer point of view, it was true. Before this, Xiong ko gave a different point of view as an observer.
At one point, he asked himself as the role of an observer. When he was helping other, is he really capable of doing so... capable of giving advices and doing the right thing?
Or is he just an ignorant who thinks he can make a difference, he questioned.
Thinking back of what I had given, I started to think of the actions that I had done.
I asked, "Did I do wrong?"
It isn't... we reach out to people because we care about them. That was as far as I was concerned.
He sometimes worried that he might've given wrong advices to me... and he felt he is responsible when he reached out to help.
This part had never crossed my mind. When I said I helped because I care but never look too far ahead, is that "don't care"?
He learnt it the hard way. Like the phrase goes, "You give some, you lose some."
I gave him an answer. That answer is an agreement between the observer and the subject. It is an assurance that I understood his goodwill. So there are responsibilities for 2 people.
I ask myself sometimes after making decisions. There is a sense of regret. But then again, I don't know what the other decisions will lead me to.
The past 2 years had given me opportunities to encounter different kinds of relationship matters. There are matters that made me happy, content and even confused at times.
Thinking positive on what I have now should be kept in mind.
Seeing young people experiencing many aspects in life is something glad to see. Everything that they experienced eventually made them to look at things from different angles from time to time, and that's where growth comes. It will enable them to cope earlier.
Younger than the masses, I have been there, I am there.
Older than the masses, I am there.
I felt that the elder has no confidence on the young even when they are capable.
I felt the young is cocky towards the elder and jugemental of their capabilities.
I hope these words are wrong. Remove all these ill feelings and things will be great.
There was a friend that I thought that she can always manage and make decisions well. I have never been able to win any arguments against her as I felt her points were valid.
There was an issue recently where I hit her back with my words and she didn't defend herself.
I pitied her on the nite when she was in my car and I overheard her conversation on the phone. A decision she made has affected her emotion and also her work.
She might not read this at all but I hope things have finally settled down for her.
Add colours to your life!!
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